Friday, April 15, 2005

10:30 p.m.

 

I knew it was only a matter of time until someone would contact me with all of the good intentions in the world, but the words said were as out of touch with what is going on as anything could be. I am by no means offended, but some people are simply not connected with the reality of death and resulting grief.

 

I received a phone call today from a friend who feels I am sinking into an abyss and I may not get out. The comments made are what someone grieving does not want to hear.

 

No, I am not sinking so low that I won’t survive, but I just can’t forget what has happened. After all, it has only been two weeks since Linda died and yet there is always the one lone individual who feels the mourning process has been going on long enough and it is time to move on. What if we were all given just two weeks to mourn? How many of us would maintain our sanity?

 

My writing’s have touched a nerve with the individual who contacted me. He thinks I am concentrating too much on the negative aspect of Linda’s death and that I am living too much in the past and must look to the future.  How could I have been married to someone for almost 22 years and just move on?

 

Sharing what I write with others is taking a risk and I had better be ready for anything. Death and grief does make some people feel very uncomfortable, but if people only knew how easily it can happen to them.

 

What was said has caused a real frustration throughout the day because the words really caught me off guard. I did, however, let the individual know I did not agree with him.  How can I possibly look at all that has happened and simply say to myself that I will see Linda again someday and at least she is no longer hurting? Hello, are there really people who think so narrow? I guess so, I just found out today.